"I can't believe he did that," or, "I'm so frustrated, he just won't pay attention to me," both fall within this category of "don't want". Every time you start talking, thinking, doing something that you "don't want", switch quickly to the opposite. Share that, say that, confirm that, engage with that.
I often find it easier for my readers and clients to do this for a day with a trusted friend who will gently help you (and you them in turn) to change the focus.
Then, feel that same feeling about men wanting you. Take that faith, and use it to convince yourself that when you're both ready, he'll appear.
If you're eager to find love, you may want to give fate a helping hand by joining an online dating site.
Our top internet dating site, Match.com, has the combination of features and name recognition that give you a decent chance at finding love.
This can help you know how your personality would match up with potential dates' personalities.
Our Bronze Award winner, Ok Cupid, allows for a combination of suggested matches and matches that you essentially make yourself by using an array of search filters.
Here's more on choosing a dating site to meet your needs, along with detail on how we arrived at our ranking of 10 dating services.