I was thinking, "DANG, that place sounds awesome." But. As a black woman married to a white man in Alabama, these kinds of precautions are automatic.We expect restaurant hosts and hotel staff to not assume we are together, even when we walk in together.Despite all of the kumbaya anecdotes and data out there, such as the fact that mixed-race families are the fastest-growing demographic in America, there is not a single interracial couple I know who has been together for an extended period of time who has not experienced some awkwardness or indignity that same-race couples do not.During a previous interview, New York Mayor Bill de Blasio recounted that, while dating, he and his wife, Chirlane Mc Cray, who is black, were surrounded and taunted by a group of teens shouting “Jungle Fever” at them.But when you are part of an interracial couple, it’s how it’s asked, where it’s asked and whom it’s asked by, that usually sends a signal that this isn’t just another nosy inquiry from your elderly aunt (who wants to make sure you’re not trying that new fangled online dating stuff).When you’re in a group of relative strangers, such as at a cocktail party, with multiple couples, and someone singles you out and asks with arched eyebrow, “So how did you two meet?We put up with the confused or hostile stares, inappropriate comments or inconsistent customer service. There was that one time a cross-dressing guy was shaking his head at us as we took engagement photos here in Bama. You should have our back.)We sometimes vent, but mostly we just try to enjoy ourselves.
Every couple, regardless of racial makeup, will hear this question countless times through the duration of their relationship.Originally posted by Slightly Flaccid Yeah, here in rural Kentucky (almost redundant, isn't it? Of course, the alternative would be country music, so we're in quite the predicament.) interracial relationships among the middle- and high- school demographic is quite popular. There are so many mixed young couples that haters would have to move if they hated seeing it. As for dirty looks, let a white guy take his black girlfriend for a walk through the projects of New York and you'll find that dirty looks aren't the only thing racists will shoot at you.It's all about specific locations when it comes to how much prejudice you're going to encounter.
It just doesn’t make sense…at least not to me.” One of my friends said she and her husband got the question so frequently, often long before more traditional small talk—such as “How do you know the hosts? ”—that depending on the setting and her sense of humor that night, she might reply with a straight face: “Strip club.” They are both successful executives. She would of course always come clean, after everyone enjoyed an awkward chuckle.