Laura and Sam were sick to death of their marriage. I think that’s why I’ve stayed in this situation…I can’t bear the idea of divorce.” Sam and Laura had the right idea: focus on starting a marriage, not ending one. Instead of trying to prove her way is right, Laura starts to really listen to her husband’s concerns.Many years ago, their marriage had been wonderful, and while they still cared for each other, years of nagging and fighting had bitten away at their love. She takes his complaints seriously and tries to understand what seems to bother him.The hard part is that few couples have what it takes.One issue that makes healing a marriage difficult is that most people come in much later than they should have and a lot of serious damage has already been done.If you don't have many of those qualities, I suggest you start working on them as soon as possible. It takes hard work, determination, and a willingness to take one for the team.
Even if it was possible to answer that question, the results would reveal very little about my -- or any therapist's -- capabilities.
The only solution to the fighting, it seemed, was to build separate lives. Sam notices this and starts listening more and being less defensive too.
They remained isolated from one another and led separate lives, even dating other people. This is an important part of communication in marriage.
Susan Heitler has spent years counseling couples on how to save a relationship.
And the good news is, most marriages can be saved from divorce!
What couples need to know is that whether or not a marriage can be saved lies in a multitude of considerations that the two individuals in the marriage bring to counseling.