The thing is, she’s a very smart and successful girl. She says when I tell her that I’m concerned for her, that it makes her feel bad and that she will try to control herself better. It’s getting to the point that I don’t even believe that she wants to change anymore. She has a great corporate job and never lets drinking effect her performance at work. Last weekend, when we were at a birthday party, I joked with her saying Just watch, youll be up dancing in 2 hrs and she said, no, I wont. That's a possibility, though it sounds as if she may be too far gone for that.
She has a great corporate job and never let’s drinking effect her performance at work. Last weekend, when we were at a birthday party, I joked with her saying “Just watch, you’ll be up drunk dancing (to the band) in 2 hrs” and she said, “no, I won’t.” Literally, 2 hours later she couldn’t even stand. If you know anyone in AA you can ask them to have a talk with her and take her to a meeting.
And when you are with an alcoholic, you are use to suffering in silence as the martyr, wondering why the alcoholic does what s/he does. This included that he did not go to my grandfather’s funeral, he did not come home all night long, and he brought cocaine into our home.
Had I begun the list sooner, instead of listening to the words I so wanted to believe, I would have saved myself at least a year of heartbreak.
Like one who lives in deceit, I stone myself and call for help Your wound grows and grows It slits my throat from vein to vein. There are hundreds of stories and resources for addicts.
I put sand in you wound, I put in your wound a giant, and around myself I light the fire. It often seems it’s the families of addicts who are forgotten and who largely suffer in silence. So much in fact that I belittled myself by staying with one for seven years. Four years later, when I found out about my husband’s relapse, I thought about this friend and the courage it took him to say this and acknowledge . We go to great lengths to avoid the subject altogether.
They very well might be seeing things too.) But if all else fails, you have to leave the relationship.
That's painful, but it's the only way for you to keep your sanity even if she can't keep hers.^This. My mother was an alcoholic and my father was the perfect enabler.